The angles are horrible. Someone is always cold. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
Shower sex has reputation issues. People may call it impractical or put it in the same category as sex on the beach, which is debatable. But with a towel in hand, I am here to defend it.
When the height difference is manageable, when hands are doing things that have nothing to do with scrubbing, it is, without a doubt, one of the sexiest things two adults can do.
Let’s begin with the body, where this whole discussion lives. Warm water loosens muscles and raises skin sensitivity to astronomical levels, where the slightest touch feels punctuated. You are quite literally physiologically more turned on before anything has even started.
Then there’s the nakedness, and I’m talking real nakedness. The bathroom is the most honest room in someone’s home. There’s no flattering light or a thin blanket to be under. No angles or shadows, just skin and steam and someone looking at you like you are exactly what they live for. The ambiance and a naked body? It does things.
Water has a way of filling the silence that the bedroom lets roam awkwardly. The water provides cover, allowing you to feel more confident to make more noise and say things you may have been hesitant to say during intimacy. I have heard things said against cold white tiles that I am certain would never have been muttered in a bedroom.
Let’s talk about positions. I will say it loudly and without apology: you can face the wall, but if you aren’t comfortable doing that, then backs against the tile. If you have some sort of ledge, put your leg there. Bonus points if you have a shower bench; take advantage of that. This is the formula that works. It requires trust and grip, but rewards both.
A shower is one of the few places where your hands are already warm, already moving and already comfortable being everywhere at once. Use that and take your time. The hot water tank is a ticking time bomb that makes the urgency extraordinary.
Something I strongly believe in is that the shower is one of the most underutilized foreplay venues in the modern sexual landscape. Not every shower encounter has to escalate. Often, the best use of a shared shower is a very long intentional warm-up that then moves elsewhere.
Washing someone’s hair is intimate, but I would recommend tying up your hair if it’s long, you don’t want to mess up the wash day schedule. Running hands down someone’s back under running water is the kind of slow burn that makes whatever comes next feel unimportant. The shower, in other words, is where desire builds up. The bedroom is just where it gets finished.
Shower sex could either be transcendent or result in a small bruise. The difference between disaster and delight is always the same thing: a sexual partner who listens and adjusts. Tell them what you want. The water is loud, so use your words and everything else.
Here’s what I know; The finish line of a good shower encounter is one of the finest things your sex life can offer. You are warm and clean, and you are looking at someone who just made a compelling case for themselves. Towel off.
Get a nonslip mat. Move the razor. Turn up the heat and have fun.
